Hmmm . . . it could be any number of things . . . most commonly the fear of having to maintain it . . . or having to give up the foods you love . . . or the fear of unwanted attention from others.
It can certainly go deeper than that as well. Once you start digging in this area, you are likely to find something.
Having a downside isn’t necessarily a bad thing. But if you want to be successful, you’d better figure out what it is and deal with it.
Because if you don’t, you won’t lose weight.
You’ll be too ambivalent.
Let’s take the Olympic skier, Bode Miller. At the 2006 Olympic games, he said he wasn’t sure he wanted to compete. He talked about having “lifestyle conflicts”. He gave few interviews and creatively dodged reporters.
After his 5th and final race, he alluded to the fact that he wasn’t sure that he wanted to win gold medals for fear of having to live life in the limelight.
Bode got disqualified in 2 races and skied off course in a 3rd. In the other 2 races, he finished just out of the money.
No gold medals for Bode.
Also, no limelight.
Bode’s vision of Olympic success included having to live life in the limelight and giving up his privacy, something he CLEARLY did not want.
His performance reflected his conflicting desires.
Bode valued his privacy more than he values gold medals.
Here’s how it works.
The subconscious says YES to everything.
So if you have the thought, “I want to lose weight.”
Your subconscious says YES!
Then you have the thought, “But that would be really hard, and I couldn’t have my favorite foods anymore.”
Your subconscious says YES!
And then you will act accordingly, usually finding a creative way to sabotage your success . . . just like Bode Miller.
That is why NOT winning in 2006 did not bother Bode Miller – because he got part of what he wanted . . . a life out of the limelight.
His fear of having to live in the limelight was more than his desire for gold medals.
In the 2010 Olympic games, that all changed. While Bode was not as prepared as he might have been (ambivalence?), he got his gold medal. Perhaps being a parent changed his perspective about having “lifestyle conflicts.”
What to do?
Identify the downside of losing weight. You can start by asking yourself this question:
If you got to your ideal weight, would there be anything uncomfortable about that?
Imagine yourself having lost 20 lb., 30 lb., or 40 lb.
What thoughts or uncomfortable feelings come into your mind? These can be subtle, so you really have to pay attention.
The quickest way to deal with it is to use Emotional Freedom Techniques to neutralize the stressful thoughts or feelings.
Then you have a clear path to your goal.
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