You tell yourself a story inside your head every day. Our stories are based on past experiences and the beliefs we form because of those experiences. We create limitations in our minds that are usually untrue.
Our stories can play like a soundtrack in the back of our minds.
If you listen for that small, quiet voice, you’ll catch yourself. The story makes up a big part of who you tell yourself you are. And to a large extent, you play out the story in life.
Are you playing small in order to avoid conflict?
Are you withdrawing from relationships in order to avoid pain?
Is your story worn out and no longer relevant?
Is it causing you to feel bad about yourself? To limit yourself?
Your story will either empower you or limit you. If you tell yourself you “can’t” or you aren’t “_________ enough” (fill in the blank – smart, disciplined, strong, etc.), those are all versions of the same dis-empowering “I’m not enough” story.
Or you may tell yourself something about the task, like “it’s too hard.” Do you believe that losing weight is hard? Perhaps that is how you perceived it in the past. But if you continue to echo that story now, you make it a reality.
If the challenge you are facing is big enough, the “not enough” story will show up. That’s because you are venturing out of your comfort zone.
You can do some investigative work and ask yourself “Where did I learn that?” A memory may come to mind. But even if it doesn’t, it serves you to create a new story. (Note to self: you can use tapping to uncover and change old stories.)
One of my favorite stories that I *choose* to tell myself when I’m facing a challenge is this: “If other people can do it, then I can do it too.” This makes so much logical sense to me, that I don’t have any other choice but to keep moving forward 🙂
I don’t worry about “how” I’m going to do it. The “how” is generally revealed after I make the commitment.
You either use your stories to your advantage, or they limit you. If you tell yourself the right story, then you keep moving forward, no matter what. Yes, you may feel more vulnerable, but you will also feel more passionate, more loving and more alive…maybe even unstoppable.